Humor, Satire

Black Woman’s Hair Touched One Too Many Times

By Shawna Collier

Venitra Davies’ hairstyles have been the focus of co-workers’ unwelcomed curiosity.

(NEW YORK) Venitra Davies, an African American attorney at Dewey, Cheatum, and Howe, was escorted from her office building Monday after assaulting the firm’s new white office manager.

According to New York City police office Tony De La Cruz, witnesses saw the two in the kitchen Monday making their morning coffee. “Then out of nowhere, Davies let out something like war cry before punching out the victim,” said De La Cruz.

“I have no idea why she was so upset,” Abby Spitz, the target of Davies’ aggression, told De La Cruz after regaining consciousness. “All I did was say ‘Good Morning’ and then complimented her on her hair.”

Davies told The Peoples News it was Spitz’s next comment and actions that pushed her over the edge.

“Abby looked at me and said ‘Oh my gosh. Your hair is so curly. How’d you do that? Is it real?,’” said Davies, who had spent all day Saturday at the salon. “She then proceeded to raise her hand in the direction of my head.”

That’s when the normally prim and professional Davies snapped and cold clocked her co-worker.

Spitz, who had just started at the firm the week prior, had not been privy to the protocol around Davies’ hair.

On an almost weekly basis Davies’ hairstyle can go from a sleek, short pageboy, to long and luscious, to an electrifying natural fro. Her white co-workers, who struggle to grow out bangs or end up looking like poodles after failed attempts at perms, don’t understand how Davies can pull off her quick changes.

In fact, Spitz was not the first employee at the firm to have a too-close-for-comfort reaction to Davies’ varying styles. Cassidy Wankman, a senior partner, holds that honor.

During an off-site retreat in 2003, Wankman absently ran his fingers through Davies’ hair when she was trying out the long sleek signature hairstyle of Naomi Campbell.

“It looked so shiny I just had to touch it,” he said. “Venitra shot me a look and told me to never touch her hair. I knew she meant business.”

But Wankman’s actions opened the door for other colleagues to satisfy their curiosity about Davies’ mane by reaching out and touching it.

“I’ve asked them a thousand times, please don’t touch my hair,” says Davies, 37, who last year put a sign on her desk reading ‘Don’t Touch My Hair.’ “Abby caught me on the wrong day.”

De La Cruz says one of the leading causes of office assaults is white people touching black women’s hair.

“When black women get their hair done, it’s best to just say it looks nice and move on,” he says.

Note: This article is satire, brought to you by the creative minds at The Peoples News. It’s not real, but we hope it made you think.

© 2008 The Peoples News

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74 thoughts on “Black Woman’s Hair Touched One Too Many Times

  1. First of all, Ms. Spitz had no right to violate her like that by touching her body parts{her hair}. White girls can’t stand it when we are versatile! get with the program. HATERS!!!!!!!!!!!!

    Posted by niccole scott | April 7, 2008, 2:25 pm
  2. shooot i know this is true since i have been married to a beautiful brown sugar bear for the last 10 years… after a new do… no touchy aloud!

    Posted by Lz4broc | April 7, 2008, 10:53 pm
  3. LOVE your blog. Out there, but not outre.

    Posted by John A. Russell | April 8, 2008, 3:50 am
  4. Man, how many times do I want to snap someone’s fingers into little pieces when they reach their grubby lil paws for my hair. Uh uh, don’t touch. You don’t know me like that.

    Posted by mkam | April 8, 2008, 8:05 am
  5. they betta recognize…..i think i will send this to all my white and asian friends…they wont know it’s not a “real” article. maybe i will save them from a similar fate.

    Posted by Kee | April 8, 2008, 9:45 am
  6. Maybe we should list touching a Black Women Hair as the “eighth” deadly sin. The sins are known as capital vices and undoubtedly this obsession with hair falls somewhere between “pride” and “avarice”.

    Too often after a Black woman get her hair styled, the Black man suffers for a few nights by being deprived of intimate encounters with his “brown sugar”. Why, because she sleeps with her head in her hands, sleeps sitting up or as a lady friend of mine that even slept with her head hanging over the side of the bed.

    Ms Davies wasn’t violated. Come on and keep it real people, it’s only hair. Hair can be restyled, re-colored and cut over and over again. It’s nothing wrong requesting people not to touch but the signs on the desk, the violence, it’s a little too much.

    And listen to Nicole, “white girls can’t stand it when we’re versatile”. When I pick up my lady from the salon, why in the world are the majority of the Black women attempting to make their hair resemble the White girl’s by getting horse hair, dead women hair and synthetic hair sewn into theirs for that long flowing look.

    Your honor, the prosecution rests.

    Posted by Wraptor AMG | April 8, 2008, 9:59 am
  7. This post is so funny and so based on truth!
    I personally don’t care if someone touches my hair. However, a couple of years ago one of my colleagues touched my hair and said, “your hair IS really soft”. It was just weird. Someone else must have told him about the softness, I guess. Why this was a topic that they would discuss is still a mystery to me. It was like he was touching the feathers of some rare bird. I just laughed at him, shook my head and walked away. I hope that I have saved other black women from his hair curiosity. Maybe he’ll just assume ‘black women have soft hair’ and keep his hands to himself from now on. 😉

    Posted by ladyT | April 8, 2008, 12:30 pm
  8. very nice info, added to favourites

    Posted by Sileo Mikedo | April 8, 2008, 6:54 pm
  9. Great subject, white folks and our hair. Them wanting to touch it is just the tip of the iceberg The last one I let touch mine expected it to be hard and wiry like wool.

    Posted by Peanut | April 8, 2008, 10:59 pm
  10. As a Black women, I only allow two people in my hair and that is my man and my hairdresser! I don’t know where people’s hands have been and I cannot stand for people to feel in your private space. Admire the fact that it looks so great, pretty and oooh I want to touch it, but DON’T touch other people’s hair!

    Posted by MY OPINION | April 9, 2008, 10:32 am
  11. Almost immediately after reading this (while on the phone with a good friend and client who is a black businesswoman), I started to Google for Ms. Davies. I wanted to send her a letter of support, because even though her actions were not the best solution, I understand them. I felt that she should not have to be a martyr for the cause. It has often boggled me as to sheer lack of etiquette involved in touching people you do not know intimately. I can only assume the behavior is a left over response from the ingrained racism that continues to plague this country. To be generous, I will say the subconscious thought, that we are somehow property and not actual people. I am passing this on to a lot of people I know, because even though many of us do not like to admit it, the threat of viloence often helps to modify behavior.

    Posted by Barbara Horne | April 9, 2008, 2:34 pm
  12. This isn’t a phenomenon limited to black women. I have long hair–it’s four feet long from crown to ends–and people seem to think I don’t mind at all if they just grab a fistful and examine it! When I ask them not to do that, they act hurt and offended and say they were “just admiring your beautiful hair.” As if an offensive battery is something I should not only expect, but appreciate!

    I think this is an offshoot of that pernicious “touchy-feely, everyone gets a hug even though I’ve never met them before” thing going around.

    Posted by Mrs. Pilgrim | April 9, 2008, 8:51 pm
  13. make it happen sisters. But …White girls do weaves as well.

    Posted by luther | April 10, 2008, 1:21 pm
  14. LOL THIS is HILARIOUS! I have natural hair tht I braid, tiwist, fro, you name it and I am in management in a very conservative company. Lets just say this one hit really close to home. It actually might have just saved someone an a$$ whooping today (I just got my hair done)…..LMAO

    Posted by Shay | April 10, 2008, 4:11 pm
  15. Hey… this (imaginary?) person had it coming to ’em. I don’t know what’s up with people thinking they can just touch someone’s hair like that WITHOUT ASKING. Our hair isn’t some animal at the zoo or someone’s pet.

    Posted by somebody | April 10, 2008, 6:52 pm
  16. I know just how she feels, I had to B**** slap a women in Walmart after I told her I didn’t like people touching my hair. And white folks really have this bad,thinking it’s okay. We are not for petting. You do it at your own risk!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    Posted by Marsha Jones | April 10, 2008, 8:55 pm
  17. As a black woman growing up I remember going to school or some place recreational and all the young black girls trying to play in some white/asian/hispanic girls hair.Now, my mother taught me better but, too many times I heard these white/asian/hispanic girls ask the black girls who always wanted to style and play in their hair to stop. Maybe this is just how it goes. When we are younger we want to touch theirs and when they get older they want to touch ours. So I think it goes both ways.

    Posted by Someonebrown | April 11, 2008, 7:28 pm
  18. LOL
    luv this article!!!!!

    Posted by boo | April 11, 2008, 9:35 pm
  19. I thought this article was hillarious,emailed it to every one,it was too good to pass up, she is a very beautiful educated sister ,but do not F– with the hair,it’s very classless and rude to ask some one if your hair is real, intelligent sophisticated people DONOT ever ask such questions,white women also get hair weaves ,does any one ever ask if its real!!!

    Posted by Sylvia | April 13, 2008, 1:47 am
  20. Dewey, Cheatam, and Howe is also the name of the law firm that represents Click and Clack, the Tappit Brothers of Car Talk on public radio. I heart The Peoples News.

    Posted by FuturePharmD | April 13, 2008, 3:11 am
  21. surely a lawyer should have used words–not fists–as a weapon. However, I agree with her on the hair touching: NO, NO, NO! I don’t know WHERE your hands have been!!

    By the way, my locs feel exactly like they look, so no, you can’t touch them because “you’re curious”!

    pax,
    bjs

    Posted by bjs | April 13, 2008, 11:07 am
  22. I would still have 2 testicles if I would have learned this lesson at a younger age.

    Posted by Cracker Jack | April 13, 2008, 11:48 am
  23. Love the article, but I have to say that white women are not the only ones with the touchy feely issues and our hair. Ask anyone that wears braids.

    Posted by Ann | April 14, 2008, 8:36 pm
  24. This was too funny! & I agree I think that some people don’t realize that everyone needs their personal space. You can’t just invite yourself in like that….I get that all the time tho here at work….people are always around my desk and I had to let them kno…my desk is my space!

    Posted by Mz.Purp | April 18, 2008, 9:25 am
  25. From someone that just left a job after having several 3-4 hour “meetings” about the texture of my hair, I can feel her pain. I don’t think she had to punch the girl out but the wrong day is just the wrong day. I fantasize to this day about punching the lights out of the women who held these meetings about my hair texture. If I had just beat her up, I probably wouldn’t be responding to this article! It seems like the other partners at the firm have some sort of sadistic game or bet going on to see who has the balls to touch her hair. Now they know the deal.

    Posted by CocoPuffs | April 20, 2008, 8:06 pm
  26. This site is funny! I love the creativity in how these articles are put together. Me and a co-worker were just talking about hair issues today–sometimes you just want to shake white folks and say “wake up, it’s just a weave!”

    Posted by Latasha | May 8, 2008, 12:25 pm
  27. LMAO!! This is hilarious, especially the thought of this actually happening in real life!

    Posted by Johnna | May 21, 2008, 1:07 pm
  28. well..i am not black…but try being a natural redhead….evry old person who even thought they might have had red hair at one point not only wants to touch your hair but pinch your cheeks too….I am 25 years old and still get baby talk from any woman over 65 …and have even gotten a pinch on the bottom once or twice….

    Posted by andy | May 29, 2008, 9:18 am
  29. This is a hoot! But for real, I was at a flea market last week and a ‘mature’ woman passed me, commented to herself, “she’s wearing a nice colorful top” and patted me. I had to resist poking her back with my umbrella. Seriously though, so many people appear in public dressed badly, you really stand out if you make the effort to look good!
    If you have magazine-perfect hair that people want to touch, isn’t it your objective to be gorgeous and irresistible???

    Posted by touchee | July 24, 2008, 12:45 pm
  30. This does not just happen to black women…or only to women for that matter! I like to change my hair color once every couple of months…go from jet black to auburn, occasionally even blonde. And it never fails that the first two or three days after I have a new color, people feel like they need to be touching on my head. And I’m thinking “Why the f*&k do you need to FEEL my head to appreciate the color? Is there something wrong with your eyes? Do you think my hair is in braille or something????”

    Posted by Jim | July 28, 2008, 4:34 pm
  31. Too funny, where has this site been all my life…..I have to point out though that this “kind” of behaviour is not limited to white people. I am black, very dark in complexion but have “good” hair and black women tend to think my hair is a weave/wig and often reach to touch my hair whilst at the same time asking me where I got my weave/wig from?!?! I just politely tell them that I am blessed with my grandmother’s hair.
    It does irritate me that people touch my hair without permission and not just strangers even friends, especially when I have teased my hair in just the right way and then hands from nowhere reach out to pat my hair aaaarrrrrgggghhhhh…..I feel that woman’s pain but please, it is not worth being arrested over!!!

    Posted by Chayil | August 4, 2008, 7:50 am
  32. I hate it when non-Black people ask so many questions or assume they know about Black haircare. It was rude, but she got what she deserves. What ever happened to personal space? The Caucasian lady may as well have asked about a Muslim’s turban.

    Posted by Mahogany | August 7, 2008, 10:38 pm
  33. Venitra needs a freedom movement. I mean the whole nine yards– posters, slogans, tshirts. The time is now. People need to know about her cause. This sister needs justice, not just-us.

    FREE VENITRA DAVIES!!!

    Posted by Delux | August 17, 2008, 3:23 am
  34. Someonebrown – thank you for noticing. I am white, and as a child was tenderheaded. Nearly every day I would end up crying from the painful and invasive hair-play. Cornrows were the worst. It was assault, plain and simple.

    Posted by Dina | August 25, 2008, 3:17 am
  35. i am a white 58 year old male and one of the few things i have learned (the hard way) in life is you DO NOT TOUCH a woman’s hair after she has spent at least a days pay on getting it done. a spike threw your hand would be a safer bet, at least you would know where it’s going to hurt. Dewey Cheatum & Howie the three stooges

    Posted by tgm | August 25, 2008, 11:00 am
  36. I am a natural red head and Black. White people either won’t look at me or they will try to touch my hair and ask if it’s real. I think they believe certain traits are only exclusive to them, which is bullshit.
    I don’t mind if people touch my hair, but the basis for many is ridiculous. Black women have blonde, red, brown, and black hair. We are so versatile that many would like to pretend we don’t exist. Point me to a place where I can get a “red head” tee shirt with a sister on it, instead of a white woman. I;v even seen Asians with natural red and blond(not albino) hair.

    Posted by GingerSince82* | September 5, 2008, 10:37 am
  37. Thank you for this satire!!! This issue hits so close to home for me. How many times have I had to deal with this issue. But, like many have said before me on this blog that the offenders are not just white. My hair is past shoulder length now…after growing my relaxer out and I still get my hair touched (w/o permission)-albeit much less now than when my hair was really long down my back. Every style I did–a sistah, mind you–would come by and touch my hair. Many got an attitude when I would ask them to stop–trying to intimidate me into letting them continue doing it randomly. (I mean…why is touching it one time not enough? It doesn’t feel any different the first time you took it upon yourself to feel w/o asking). And, church folks can be the worst!–coming off with pious attitudes about how I should be more Christlike and allow people to be “affectionate” with me. Yeah right, like you feeling my hair is about “affection” and not curiosity, envy, or some other crazy motive. It’s amazing how people w/poor etiquette try and turn it around on you. It got to a point where I’d see folks coming and would bust out with a scrunchy to avoid my hair getting felt, touched, pulled, etc. What’s happened to this culture? Why do people feel entitled to invade another’s personal space? I’m going to continue checking folks until they get the message (esp. now that my hair is growing back long). I’d like to clock ’em :o) but it isn’t worth losing your religion over…LoL!

    Posted by Mikkia | September 9, 2008, 10:48 am
  38. This is hilarious! First hint that it’s satire, a lampoon: Dewey, Cheathum and Howe translation — “Do we cheat ’em. And how!” Old joke that goes way back before NPR’s Tappet Bros. Second hint: “This article is satire, brought to you by the creative minds at The Peoples News. It’s not real, but we hope it made you think.”

    Posted by lan | September 10, 2008, 12:46 pm
  39. While I understand why she wold be annoyed off this you can’t resort to violence for the interest o yourself and others I leave the “interests” for the readers of this article and comment to choose.

    Posted by Mr.Jay | September 24, 2008, 7:41 pm
  40. Human beings are tactile creatures. As infants, we begin to learn about our world largely through touch–as our eyes aren’t sufficiently developed to focus right away, simply looking isn’t enough. As children, we delight in varying textures that impart different information to us–every imaginable texture, every variant on rough and smooth.

    As adults it’s difficult to reconcile the fact that we still take in information via touch with the fact that we pretend at civility and aren’t permitted to touch other people.

    The happiest people in the world are those who touch and who are frequently touched by the people they love–it’s a throwback to infancy when everything was Touch, and everything was Safe.

    I’m not suggesting that we run out and get touched by every freak on the street (far from it). But don’t ascribe racist attitudes to people who simply don’t resist their natural urge to touch something about which they’re curious. The need for touch crosses all borders, real and imaginary.

    That said, even after all these months it makes me laugh how many people forget that these articles are satire.

    Posted by Ophelia | October 2, 2008, 2:53 pm
  41. this is very funny…i understand a lil bit why she could be angry..i’m black and i have soft hair..people often come over to check if it’s the real thing; and i mean both black and white women..sometimes i get pissed but now a days i’m so used to it that i don’t give a damn if they touch my hair and admire it…well of course i’m not so happy about it but 😦

    Posted by mizzfi | October 5, 2008, 5:09 am
  42. SO WHAT and who cares because Im cute and I got paper. Now with this, Im just gonna stack it SERIOUSLY because I wanna move to Charlotte, NC.

    We have to be careful about what spins us AS PEOPLE outta control.

    http://MOMzOnPoint.contact.html
    …..I BET YOU NEVER SAW ANYTHING LIKE THIS BEFORE

    Posted by Greta | October 15, 2008, 3:40 am
  43. Yeh when my baby was a toddler, the white people thought she was so cute and wanted to touch her hair. At first I thought “RACIST” then i had to check myself. Their hair is not like ours so they were curious.

    That was 25 years ago and I GOT OVER IT.

    Let’s get over ourselves and STOP tripping over ANCIENT ARTIFACTS that does not serve us AT ALL. It still does what it always has done. Hold us down AND we keep BUYING IT.
    who’Z zoomin who.

    http://MOMzOnPoint.contact.html
    …..I BET YOU NEVER SAW ANYTHING LIKE THIS BEFORE

    Posted by Greta | October 15, 2008, 3:45 am
  44. Sometimes I want to touch someones hair but I at least ask first. I want people to ask me, its just rude to touch strangers or people that your not that close to! I was at a concert and a white girl behind me felt the need to run her fingers through my hair, I was slightly annoyed but I know my hair was silky so Im glad if she wanted to know what black hair felt like she caught me on the right day!!! She also told me my hair was soft so I wasnt too mad.

    Posted by Kyn | November 7, 2008, 2:04 am
  45. While I agree that it’s not a good idea to touch a person’s hair, especially without their permission, white people like to touch each other’s hair also. I get that a lot (I’m white) from other whites. In fact, at the dorm where I went to school, black girls were always trying to touch my hair. & no, I never touched theirs. I’m not a hair-toucher.
    It’s not always racist. It depends on the person. Some white people like to touch everyone’s hair. Some like to touch black people’s hair because it’s different from theirs.

    Please pick a bigger battle & fight that one.

    Posted by Sarah | December 6, 2008, 12:04 am
  46. That’s true Sarah.

    I also think hair for black women is not the same as hair for white women. If you’ve grown up hearing criticism from your own people for your hair texture, you aren’t going to feel the same way about people touching your hair as someone who grew up with hair being a neutral or positive thing.

    I think touching a BW’s hair is like making a comment about a WW’s weight. They are both sensitive issues that are tied to the woman’s sense of self worth and desirability.

    This is an area where the two cultures need to understand the different place of hair outside of their own culture. With effort and understanding people can avoid taking and causing offense when it’s really not intended.

    Posted by RedDelicious | December 8, 2008, 3:35 am
  47. The only Black women who truly freak out when people touch their hair are those whose hair is fake. I’m Black and have naturally long hair down my back. People are always touching my hair and you know what? I refuse to let it bother me. They want to know if it’s real and even when I tell them it is, they refuse to believe me unless they touch it to be sure. So, I let them and move on. Yes, touching someone’s hair without permission is wrong. But, if it’s real it’s less of a big deal than when it’s fake.

    The Peoples News responds: We’ve heard from plenty of women with natural hair ready to cold-cock those who don’t respect the concept of personal space.

    Posted by Victoria | December 15, 2008, 1:40 am
  48. I am conastantly plagued by non Black coworkers asking me if my hair is real or fake and touching it.It makes my blood boil because i have never ever heard them treat any other race the same way.I feel violated and angry and it’s not like we invented weaves and wigs or are the only race using them.I’m also this close to losing it.I think our Black movie producers should make a movie that borders on these racial issues so that everybody can learn how sickening the behaviour is to us Sistas.

    Posted by konny | December 20, 2008, 7:45 am
  49. Hair to us is a very personal issue and needs to be respected.

    Posted by konny | December 20, 2008, 7:47 am
  50. I am a black woman and I HATE for people to touch my hair!! Mine is real, down my back as well…meaning…nothing! I don’t and won’t let someone touch my hair to “prove” it’s real! What does it REALLY matter? It’s hair..real OR fake. Touching my hair is a direct violation of my personal space..plain and simple. It’s just like walking up to a stranger and popping the zit on their forehead without permission..you wouldn’t ask someone to pop their zits..don’t ask to touch their hair. Find something better to do…PLEASE! I don’t care WHAT race you are..we NEED to respect each others differences and personal space and move ON!

    Posted by MsMeque | December 22, 2008, 1:11 pm
  51. Don’t touch my hair!!! My hairstyle changes every few days to every few weeks. I am tired with all caps of white women inquiring about my hair. Like someone else said, it’s just hair. Ask me about my political viewpoints or what I read the other day. Anyway, why does a hairstyle concern other people so much? I wore bangs with a pretty layered pony tail and had a white co-worker tell me that I had a “white girl” hair style. Maybe she was just having an ignorant day.

    Sistahs keep doing what you do…..

    Posted by Lady Brown | February 2, 2009, 12:13 am
  52. thats why I wear a wrap to work…that and all the dust in the air. but i could just as easily wear a hat….but a hat doesnt cover all of my hair. the white coworkers arent the problem, its the black ones….the ones who think chemicals should be a ‘natual’ way of life for our culture and not only want to repremand you with one side of their face for not subcoming to the creamy-crack, but on the other side of their two faceness will tell you ‘it looks lovely’ and start to reach. one person I told “dont get dropped” another one i told “i will punch you in the throat if you touch my hair” and the basic reaction after two steps back is “what got into her, thats so out of character” but how would you like to be a walking petting zoo for stupid people who dont even have the good sense to at least try to wipe the cheetos reside off their hands before trying to put them in your hair. not having it…not me. I dont know if its ingrained or reaction-gained, but since I have been natural (over 30 years) I balk at anyone trying to touch my hair.

    Posted by Tonilakaya | February 7, 2009, 10:31 pm
  53. I can’t stand it when complete strangers want to touch your hair, and not just white people, black people as well. I have wavy hair and I’m sick and tired of black people asking me Is that your real hair? Does your hair naturally wave like that? I’m sick and tired of the tugging, and the petting. People have no respect. A lot of people say it’s just hair get over it, but the main point is that it’s YOUR hair, and their invading YOUR personal space. How would you feel if a complete stranger came and ran his or her grubby hands all up and through your hair, and then proceeded to tug on it to make sure it’s real. You wouldn’t like it very much now would you? When did people start to believe and think it was okay to touch complete strangers. Then if you catch an attitude they get the look of “Oh I’m sorry I didn’t know I wasn’t suppose to touch” or “What’s wrong with her” The nerve of some people!!!

    Posted by Ali. G | February 11, 2009, 12:27 am
  54. Personally, I don’t view this as a racial issue. It’s an issue about hygiene. Having worked around people all of my life and been in restrooms with women who don’t wash their hands after using the facilities, I would be upset if some strange person touched my hair without my consent. Don’t want earwax,snot,dick,semen, smegma,va-jay-jay, STD, or “what have you” hair. Thanks SO much!!

    PS

    That lady was forewarned!

    lmao

    Posted by Don't Want Stank Hair | February 11, 2009, 10:21 pm
  55. This is not a race issue.. its just common courtesy.. you don’t touch someone else if you don’t know them like that. I have many tattoos all over my body and if I go out in a tank top… people, white and black, think its okay to trace their fingers on my skin over my ink while i’m standing with my back to them..

    I also don’t see where it says that the lady who got knocked out, touched the hair.. All it seems to me is that she complimented it but acted a bit ignorant.

    Posted by Nicole | March 3, 2009, 5:33 pm
  56. Nicole is right, it’s just like social law. Unfortunately many people who weren’t raised correctly think nothing of getting into another person’s space to satisfy their own dumb curiosity. And can we talk sex discrimination? Nobody would go up to a Male and just do that.

    The Peoples News responds: The men among us with dreadlocks would disagree!

    Posted by Daymon The Basketeere | March 21, 2009, 11:45 pm
  57. Wow in a professional setting someone’s trying to play with her hair. Tacky. And a senior partner ran his fingers through her hair? That could have been a sexual harassment complaint or lawsuit waiting to happen. I don’t know why white people are so fascinated with the hair of nonwhites, but they need to get over it. It’s just hair. I had a white man at a post office trying to play with my hair when I grew it to mid back length. I glared at him and moved in the opposite direction. No one wants your dirty fingers in their freshly done hair. Some people don’t understand the concept of personal space and how you need permission to intrude upon it.

    Posted by a different nicole | April 8, 2009, 2:19 pm
  58. @ Victoria…

    You want complete strangers pawing at your hair, that’s your business. I’m black and I’ve had hair to my waist that I usually wear in an up do. From time to time, I get it pressed and wear it straight and spend my entire day answering questions about my ethnicity and dodging people trying to see if my hair was real. And guess what? That’s tacky. A man in a store wanted to take a picture to prove to someone else black women can grow long hair and I felt like I was on display. Tacky, in every sense of the word. Point blank, you don’t touch strangers. You don’t invade someone’s personal space. Just because you’re an attention hog doesn’t mean everyone else behaves that way.

    Posted by a different nicole | April 8, 2009, 2:29 pm
  59. …Got through law school but couldn’t deal with THAT! LOL..

    Posted by Gen | September 12, 2009, 2:13 pm
  60. this is some bull the lady who tuched her hair first was in the wrong she was just defending herself

    black women we need to make a Petition so that people of other races do not touch our hair without our permission i know if i walked up to some random white woman and started touching her breast it would be a problem harassment is harassment the black woman should sue the white lady who touched her and the company…..i know i would be a millionaire by the time this was over i wish a white person would touch my hair right now.lord i need to go cool off bye.

    Posted by lilmsirish | December 6, 2009, 6:28 pm
  61. Stupid!

    Posted by Veronica | February 28, 2010, 11:20 pm
  62. As a black woman, I have been on both sides of the issue, the “just-got-my-hair-did” and the “it’s-only-hair” and I have to say, life is easier when you can relax about the hair. I agree that people must ASK, it is never acceptable to just touch someone’s head. I do understand the curiosity that people have about black people and their hair but give the compliment without assuming the right to touch. I love this site! Keep up the excellent, hysterical work! You guys are brilliant!

    Posted by S | August 16, 2010, 5:20 am
  63. I live in Bullitt county, Kentucky (right outside Louisville) and majority is whit. i have 9 blacks and 4 asinas and 3 hispanics in my school. the white girls just don’t understand when i say don’t touch my hair. they wait till i raise my voice and get in there face beofre they realize. but when i ge the next new hairstyle its like they tottally forget NO TOUCHING!!

    Posted by Alexa Hughes | November 18, 2010, 9:46 pm
  64. Great Picture I must Say, and the article was great as well thank you =)

    Posted by Forestry Equipment | November 19, 2010, 11:03 am
  65. “I agree that people must ASK, it is never acceptable to just touch someone’s head. I do understand the curiosity that people have about black people and their hair but give the compliment without assuming the right to touch” I agree with you =)

    Posted by Centec Equipment | November 19, 2010, 11:04 am
  66. You people are really silly
    It dosent matter if you are black and have hair down to your back. Nobody care’s just get on with life.
    We all have hair and what matters is that you as a woman make the most of yourself and be happy.
    Beauty is BEAUTY
    what ever lenght or volume.
    Get a life and stop bluffing on The WORLD WIDE WEB.

    Posted by Janecole | January 14, 2011, 8:55 am
  67. Venitra is obviously at least 70% white, so much for the angry black woman hype. It’s sad so many Black woman are unhappy with what nature gave them for hair. It seems their self-loathing manifest itself in aggression towards those they seek to immulate. Violence is the last action of a desperate person,guess Venitra is despately depressed about not having the hair she dreams of having. Everyone should watch Chis Rock’s HBO special. “GOOD HAIR”. It’s a hoot!!! Venitra should be able to be comfortable with her natural self,she really is quite beautiful.

    Posted by BIG MIKE | January 26, 2011, 1:50 pm
  68. The chemicals in those perms smell like Hell,who wants to touch that?Weaves come from India mostly,why would I want to touch the hair of some Indian woman I don’t know?Ladies stop being QUEENS of DE’NILE, Be proud of your ROOTS, kinky is’nt ugly unless you let it be. Don’t be angry with white folks for your own insecurities. It is like an addiction,you have to admitt the problem before you can work through it.

    Posted by Arya | January 27, 2011, 10:08 am
  69. If someone asks to touch my hair and I feel comfortable then yes but c’mon lets be serious some creepy man comes out of nowhere and grabs your hair?. Or some random woman walks up behind you and grabs you hair!? (Which has happened to me) It’s kinda scary, I mean I know nothing about them except they just appeared out of no where, not knowing their background…who knows what they could be putting in my hair..people are into all kind of weird things. If the person lets me know then I’m fine with it but I don’t want someone digging their hands through my Afro trying to feel my scalp or tugging on my hair to see if it’s fake, I mean seriously!?

    Posted by Ash | February 26, 2011, 1:37 am
  70. This was sssssoooooo funny and the comments even funnier cause it seem like 80 percent of the commenters didn’t read the part……….

    Posted by ldm | March 2, 2011, 7:59 pm
  71. This reminds me of the saying: “my right to swing my fist ends at your nose”. There is curiosity from others, and yet there is also the personal space issue.

    I am multiracial, with natural hair that has been almost every colour of the rainbow, and in truth, I can really only tolerate two people touching my hair — my fiance and my hairdresser — and for two reasons: 1) I value my personal space, and 2) I have Asperger Syndrome and due to a more sensitive than normal nervous system, I cannot tolerate too much unbidden, unwanted touching from others. I might not punch someone for touching my hair, but I’m likely to get the willies. I’d just want someone to ask and then leave the answer up to me if they want to touch.

    -Nicole

    Posted by ravenswingpoetry | May 10, 2011, 12:30 pm
  72. …….Need I say more

    Posted by Marlena Harts | July 23, 2011, 8:53 pm

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